The move? Piece of cake

Any radical change can create discomfort in children, especially older children who have been accustomed to the environments, things and certain habits that are inevitably established in any family for longer. Moving then very often means moving away from friends, a key teenage reference point, or even changing schools. This needs to be prepared for first by talking about it and again by talking about it. If you, too, have some minor anxieties, don't let them be noticed, because the tone should always be one of optimism and joy for a change that should be made to be experienced as ameliorative. Never raise your voice, even though the questions will be repeated the same and pressing.

Promise, and keep your word to the extent possible, to invite close friends to your new home often. If you really want to go overboard (although not all pedagogues would agree), promise when the move is complete that you will give them that game they have been clamoring for for a long time and have not yet been granted. Another winning move might be to have them help you pack and box the items they hold dear. But only if they do it willingly. For younger children, the detachment, as mentioned, is less traumatic, although their sensitivities should not be underestimated. Always talk about it gently and enthusiastically by envisioning situations that you know will convey joy and fun. Let them experience everything as a beautiful adventure game.

Even with toddlers, you can pretend to have them help you while you put some of their toys back in the boxes. If they are fond of a stuffed animal, a storybook or a doll, don't take it away from them-it will be extra security. The last night to be spent in the home should be arranged with some care so as not to give the child a sense of abandonment. If he sleeps alone in his bedroom, leave familiar objects all around him as much as possible. You will make an extra sacrifice in the morning by hurriedly stuffing what is left into the last open carton. Then if you have someone you absolutely trust (and to whom the little one is accustomed), leave your child with them as early as 24 hours before the move. You will pick it up when the house is changed. For your children, young or old, have a little extra patience in the early days. And, as soon as possible, recreate those reassuring habits they had previously.